Mothering An Adolescent at Zunheboto Sadar A Case Study

Volume 8, Issue 5, May – 2023 International Journal of Innovative Science and Research Technology
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Mothering an Adolescent at Zunheboto Sadar:

A Case Study
Vinica S Achumi
Ph.D. Scholar
Mahatma Gandhi University, Meghalaya
Abstract:- Adolescence is known for its peculiar supporting and up to the extent of making many important life
transitional stage which incorporation adolescents choices.
encountering different changes and crises. Lack of
legitimate information about adolescence, the crises it II. CASE STUDIES
incorporates, and its consequences to both mothers and
adolescents can tremendously influence both when this  Case Study-1
phase of life approaches, it is confusing for both to A 43-year mother with three children, 8, 11, and 15
respond appropriately to the situation and consequently years respectively, a full-time mother taking care of her
most times it is mismanaged and Adolescents easy children which was never an issue for her though she had an
exposure to drugs and becoming an addict is one of its excessive number of responsibilities as a mother, her children
consequences adding to numerous others. The study were obedient and manageable yet as her oldest slowly
attempted to understand the various types of encounters transforms into an adolescent, things are gradually switching
of mothers’ upbringing adolescents dealing with up around the house, getting difficult to manage consistently,
numerous progression and development, to apprehend she noticed the transformation how her adolescent son is
how large of a position mothers play in adolescents' lives. presently not that talkative cheerful human as he was in his
school age, turning out to be exceptionally withdrawn and
Keywords:- Mother, Adolescent, Chil-Upbringing, preferring very often to be left alone, he is easily angered
Adolescent Crises. upon lecturing him that he would leave home and sleep over
at his friends, here the Mother is finding it extremely
I. INTRODUCTION challenging to understand her adolescent, with all that the
real problem started when he began demanding money and
Every mother has their own different experiences when upon the refusal, he would break things such as; Mirrors,
it comes to child upbringing just like every child is born furniture, flower pots, and mobile phones so to avoid this she
different and there are multiple ways concerning how mothers is constrained to give him money each time which is getting
practice nurturing. “Mothering claims a great number of years out of control, he even threatens her mother not to inform his
of hard work giving affection and care to a growing child and father and this has been going on for quite some time now,
mothers as homemakers incorporate diverse exercises and and since her husband is barely home who is a cab driver, all
capacities alongside critical venture, it is a general knowledge the problems have to be overlooked by her, being a cab
that housewives mothers should raise, and take care of driver who makes just enough to manage home, most days
children which include teaching, cooking, clean, wash, they battle monetarily and with this issue, it is getting a lot
nurture, design, oversee accounts, direct workers, coordinate harder for her to handle her adolescent at home, yet she is
gatherings, give companionship to a spouse, mingle, and do presently planning to send him to the boarding, for which she
numerous different things to easily run the house furthermore, is saving money to send him right when she can save enough.
give a solid and blissful environment to other members of the She believes this is the only way he can be controlled and
family” (Rahman 2005). monitored as she is vulnerable and clueless to handle him at
home.
Mothering is characterized as the most ‘fulfilling and
powerful work’ any woman will at any point have. As  Case Study- 2
mothers, they sustain and profoundly mold the existences of A 40 -year-old mother with two children, 9 years, and
children and families. Fathers assume a significant part, yet as 14 years respectively, she is a businesswoman who owns a
mothers, they are the CEOs of the families, and very much thrift shop which gives her less time to be with her children,
like in the corporate world, they set the tone and how they feel initially, it was manageable as her mother, the grandparent of
influences how the entire family feels (Greenberg & Avigdor, the children would take care of them while she is away but
2009). Mothers are discovered to be the more involved in since they all growing up, she is attempting to manage the
child upbringing and managing adolescents dealing with home without the assistance of her mother. During the
different changes and challenges, the study found the pandemic of Covid19, she was compelled to buy her
significance of the mother's role in child upbringing and how adolescent a mobile phone for online classes which changed
their future in huge part relies on mothers who will guide their everything, her 14-year-old daughter is now extremely
every step from teaching, behavior modification, and addicted to her mobile phone that she failed in 8th standard
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and now repeating the classes. Her adolescent would she finally decided to agree for abortion as they have no
consistently have arguments with her when she is told not to knowledge about early pregnancy, abortion and its
excessively utilize her phone, she would skip a meal or consequences, in addition her daughter was exceptionally
family time to play games, she sleeps late at night and wakes very young to be a mother. After the abortion, her daughter
up very late missing her classes habitually, additionally, she dropped out of school and presently taking a year break for
was caught twice sneaking out at night upon which her recovery.
mobile phone was seized which made no difference as she
created a lot of trouble protesting by staying in her room the  Case Study-5
whole day without going to class and threatening her mother A 49-year-old mother of three children, 11, and 14. And
to harm herself which continued for days and mother feeling 16 years respectively, being a full-time mother, raising three
defenseless she handed back her phone and she currently children was never easy for her, gradually turning out to be
remains the same glued to her mobile phone leaving mother more challenging and most exceedingly terrible to be a
so distressed. mother to two adolescents and one nearly an adolescent. Her
16-year-old son slowly started investing more time outside
 Case Study-3 and was seldom home, and even when he was home he
A 39-year-old mother to three children, 5, 8, and 13 seemed like a different person, he would lock his room and
respectively, she is a full-time mother her husband is a daily would not answer even when he is called multiple times, he
wage earner but heavily addicted to alcohol so the little would spend hours in the washroom and after he utilizes the
money he earns each day is mostly spent on drinking washroom there would be strange smell which was confusing
bringing very little at home. Her 13-year-old son gradually yet she respected his privacy moreover because he was
changed, he was an easy child, to begin with, he caused no becoming aggressive when she questioned anything yet Her
trouble as a kid but slowly he began spending more time with nightmare began when her adolescent son was caught by
peers who are older than him and gradually he started going police when he was buying illegal drugs and she got a phone
out regularly skipping classes and getting into trouble, call from the police station, she could hardly believe her son
sometimes he would come home with bruises and sometime was into drugs but to her surprise, he was more than that, he
he would just not come home, however, the genuine issue was already an addict who was found to be involved in many
established as he started coming home intoxicated illegal activities, unforeseen he is presently sent to a juvenile
incorporating lying, cursing and stealing money at home, observation home where he will be monitored for some
mother found herself in a very helpless state as her husband months and ever since the mother has been finding very
himself is a drunkard so they cannot simply question their difficult to eat and sleep.
son to refrain from these activities, and neighbors started
complaining about things been stolen frequently and once he III. METHODOLOGY
was caught in the act and was badly beaten by the neighbors
which was terrifying and heartbreaking for her to watch and For the study, the research methodology used for
he was completed wasted and taken to hospital having no analysis is the collection of primary data; i.,e conducting case
option left he is now sent to a rehab centre in a different studies to gain an in-depth understanding of the journey of
district to seek help. motherhood particularly mothering an adolescent and
managing the crises adolescents go through.
 Case Study-4
A 40-year-old mother to a 15-year-old daughter, she is a
farmer working every day on her farm, having an only child IV. FINDINGS
she and her husband endeavored to provide everything and
anything she wanted and needed even when they are  The struggles and negative impact of working mothers
struggling, as her daughter turned adolescent she was who are forced to neglect their children were identified as
excessively spoiled to the point of forcing her parents to buy how it becomes difficult to interface with children at
all the expensive gadgets and clothes and upon refusal, her another level,
daughter would become extremely furious and aggressively  The danger of excessive use of mobile phones and how it
damage her belongings. Mother finds it undeniably is deeply affecting adolescents was identified which
challenging to communicate with her daughter as she is needs serious consideration as it is impacting negatively
easily irritated and does not have any desire to spend time in multiple ways which are a serious threat for the future.
with her parents, she is jolly and happiest with her peers but  It is found that giving all autonomy to adolescents has a
at home her daughter is a different person, she is always on very negative impact as they explore new things, in the
her phone either talking or chatting which has slowly reached adult world which they do not understand could endanger
a disturbing level of an excessive phone call however she them when they are not monitored, educated, and put
was respected as an adult to intervene her privacy yet one- forth certain boundaries.
day to her mother’s surprise a stranger lady called her mother  Parental influence has a huge effect on children,
telling her daughter is in hospital for abortion who was particularly adolescents who are identified, and how they
impregnated by her son, She was terrified and as she rushed become more vulnerable to addictions as they grow up
to hospital she found her daughter in hospital crying her eyes watching their parents indulge in utilizing alcohol and
out preparing for abortion, mother all terrified and speechless drugs.
had a very hard time to deal with this situation yet helplessly

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 It is apparent that mothers are less aware of ways to deal
with or understand the adolescent crisis and how it has
been impacting families negatively in numerous ways, in
addition, it shows the limited source of help accessible in
the study area.
V. CONCLUSION
Motherhood or mothering can be viewed as one of the

hardest positions to be in as it incorporates the childhood of a
kid and on the off chance it is done well, it tends to be
extremely fulfilling notwithstanding, on the off chance that it
is done else, it can damage the existence of a child for
eternity. Here the researcher concludes the study by covering
multiple explanations of the journey of motherhood, which is
uniquely experienced particularly dealing with adolescent
crises and how it can impact both mother and adolescent. The
importance of educating both mothers and adolescents in
properly managing this difficult stage is found to be a
necessity and prevention intervention that can emerge out of
multiple sources; Educators, Churches, and NGOs are also
found to be significant in managing adolescent crises
alongside mothers who are found to be helpless in many
circumstances.
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[1]. Greenberg, C. L. & Avigdor, B.S. (2009). What happy

working mothers know. John Wiley & Sons, Inc.,
Hoboken publication. P.21
[2]. Rahman, Z. (2005). Women and Society. Kalpaz
Publications. P.15

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Volume 8, Issue 5, May – 2023 International Journal of Innovative Science and Research Technology

Mothering an Adolescent at Zunheboto Sadar:

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Motherhood or mothering can be viewed as one of the

[1]. Greenberg, C. L. & Avigdor, B.S. (2009). What happy

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