Dan Murray-Serter 🧠’s Post

Feeling like life's a whirlwind, lovelies? 🌪️ Struggling to find meaning in the daily hustle and bustle? It's time to sprinkle some intentionality into your life and embrace a purpose-filled journey! 🌟 Here are some tried-and-true tips for intentional living and working, because your life deserves that extra sparkle! ✨ First things first, let's tackle distractions! 🙅♀️ In a world full of social media buzz and endless opinions, it's easy to lose sight of what truly matters. Take a step back, identify your biggest distractions, and consider limiting or letting go of them altogether. Your focus is your superpower! 💪 MY NUMBER ONE TIP IS: KEEPING A TO DO LIST. It helps me know what things to prioritize despite my busy schedule. Some other tips I have for you: 🌟 Know Your Values: It's like the compass guiding your intentional life journey. Take a moment to ponder: What fills your heart with joy? What ignites your inner fire? What makes you go, "Hell yes!"? Know your values, and you'll find clarity and purpose. 🌞 Morning Intentions: Start your day with a burst of intention! Set a morning intention—it can be as simple as a few words or a sentence. It's your daily reminder to be the amazing, intentional you. 🍽️ Small Shifts: No need for a complete life makeover!  Infuse intentionality into your daily activities, like savoring a homemade meal or turning chores into mindful moments. Every small shift counts!  🧠 Mind Matters: Tune in to your mental health. Notice your emotions and thoughts. If overwhelm knocks, pause, reflect, and reach out for support when needed. You're never alone on this journey. 🌿 Self-Care & Reflection: Queen, you're a priority! Dedicate time to nurture yourself—self-care isn't selfish; it's self-love. Dive into self-reflection, exploring your inner world with curiosity and compassion. Living with intention might seem like a dance at first, but oh, the rewards are pure magic! ✨ Start small, keep going, and remember, intentional living is a daily practice. You can start again at any moment, my friend. Ready to light up your life with intention? Today's the day to begin this enchanting journey. Watch your world transform as you start living with intention, purpose, and a heart full of sparkle! 🌟❤️ Need help with your career goals? Make sure to send me a message! #careerandlifebalance #girlboss #careercoach #careergoals #careertips #careeradvice #girlboss #worklifebalance #selfcare #selflove #intentionalliving

Like for all things, we hold limiting beliefs that stop us from having the very things we all strive for at some point in our lives. These are beliefs handed down to us from our parents, siblings, friends, employers, society, etc. Once we pick up these beliefs, they become expectations and so these are the things we see playing out in our lives. It’s the same for the beliefs we hold about happiness. I’ve narrowed it down to three specific ones and explain here, why they are limiting beliefs and untrue. 1. The first belief is that happiness is outside of us - yes, we can feel happy but the idea is that the happy inside comes from the happy outside. Having our first date, job, car, holiday all bring on the feeling of happiness but it’s fleeting. After a while the intense feeling felt at the beginning goes. We then believe that to be happy something needs to happen on the outside, again, to be happy. But, true lasting happiness actually comes from the inside and reflects back at us from outside. It’s like a beacon of light shining from our heart that then lights up our world. What did you learn as a child that made you believe that happiness didn’t last? 2. The second belief is that we have no control over how we feel, therefore we can’t change our feelings. We are not told that there’s a connection between our thoughts, beliefs and feelings. Our feelings come from our thoughts and our thoughts become our beliefs. A good example is how a child is laughed at and mocked for being clumsy. As an adult, any time someone laughs, that adult believes they are being laughed because they must have acted in a clumsy way and immediately feel the way they did as a child. This cycle can be stopped by getting rid of the belief. And of course, beliefs can range anywhere between fear of being clumsy to feeling unloved, unwanted, not enough and actually sabotaging marriages, relationships, jobs and so on. 3. The last belief is believing that you are everything you’ve been told about yourself and also what you believe about yourself from your experiences in life. It is these beliefs that keep many of us acting small and not realising the power we all carry within us. If you’ve read ‘The Secret’ you already know that we are far more powerful than we realise. Do we need someone to help us fix all this? No, not if our power and happiness is inside us. But you may need someone to guide you to where that is. If you’d like to know more, feel free to contact me. Link and email in my bio. #happinesscomesfromwithin #stopthecycleofunhappiness

I’ve always described myself as being “not good at endings/goodbyes”. I’ve sobbed my way through many an ending and have somehow labelled that as negative. I saw this post on Facebook this week and it really resonated: “Most of us have been raised to believe that the road to a happy life is paved with pleasure, and that the pursuit of pleasure is the path to fulfilment. But as we grow up, we begin to realize that life is not always easy or pleasurable. In fact, much of it is difficult and painful. We all experience loss, disappointment, illness, aging, and eventually death. We encounter stress, anxiety, and fear. We suffer from the slings and arrows of everyday life. And yet, we continue to cling to the idea that happiness is found in pleasure and the avoidance of pain. We try to avoid our painful experiences by numbing ourselves with drugs or alcohol, distracting ourselves with TV or social media, or obsessing over our work or our relationships. But the more we try to avoid the basic reality that all human life involves pain, the more we are likely to struggle with that pain when it arises, thereby creating even more suffering. The truth is that happiness is not found in the avoidance of pain, but in the willingness to face and accept our pain. It is in the willingness to experience our painful thoughts and feelings, to acknowledge them without judgment, and to take action in line with our values and goals. It is in the willingness to be present in the moment, to connect with our senses and our environment, and to find joy and meaning in the simple things in life.” ~Russ Harris We are emotional beings. Emotions give us vital information about what makes us happy or sad, what is safe or not safe or what we like or don’t like. Emotion is energy-in-motion and is supposed to be felt and released; to flow through us so it doesn’t get stuck in our body and create physical dis-ease. When we label emotion as negative the risk is we push it down, we suppress it and avoid it and we make life choices that perpetuate that avoidance. We tell ourselves that we don’t want to step into a new career, a new relationship, or write a book (more on that later!) in case we have to experience the pain or disappointment of it not working out. We “protect” our hearts from having to experience emotions we’ve labelled as bad. Click here to continue reading: https://lnkd.in/eTkEBDTw #lifecoaching #perfectlyimperfect #loveyourwholeself

"Just living the life of slavery. Hope to get your life soon." A friend of mine randomly mentioned this in an inebriated state. I understand that job life is very painful for a lot of people. Sometimes because the job selected was based upon need. Sometimes because the job selected was based upon greed. Sometimes because the job selection was not even an option, but a compulsion. But, if you are hating your life based upon the thought that someone is having a rosy lifestyle and you want to replicate that, WAIT. STOP. That's a red flag. Because grass is always greener on the other side. You will never be happy in any role if you think that what you think is happy will be happy. It's not just about my life. My life looks very rosy from the outside because I know how to mask it. Those who know me, know what I keep going through. And since I keep a facade of happiness, people might get the implication that I am very happy. It is similar to my idea of thinking someone else is also very happy. But the real happiness is in the understanding that if your primary role is not keeping you happy, opt in for a secondary role that will keep you happy. If that works, switch it to primary, and then maybe, you will be happy. Or else, Experience, Experiment, and Execute. Be sure of the fact that if you think something is happening to someone, maybe it is. Maybe it is a facade. Maybe it is both. But the point to note is that it is still not a guarantee that you will be happy. Please do not hate your work because you like someone else's better. Only hate your work if you are not able to find YOU in that and there is no chance to find YOU even if you stay. Analyze positively. Do not overthink. Remember, mental health is not a parameter that can be evaluated based on someone else's experiences. It is an understanding of the fact that your life matters to you the way you want it to matter to you. So next time, you see someone very happy, be happy with them. Don't suck for yourself. Maybe, the other person thinks you are happy and they might stop sucking for themselves because of YOU. That's it for today. Have a great day and keep thinking about what I said above. Also, kindly follow RudrakshaHub so that such words of wisdom keep flowing for positivity. #people #work #experience #job #mentalhealth #like #happiness

50 Ways to Win at Life: 2024 Edtion Part 1 of 3: Building Healthy Routines and Managing Stress 1. You need a regular bedtime, probably 10 p.m. Set a bedtime alarm and defend it - not just for a week, but for the long term. 2. You also need a regular getting up time ideally the same at weekends as during the week. That time should be 8 hours after you go to sleep. Watch your mental well-being head skywards in just a few weeks when your brain knows what it's doing. If you can't get to sleep, let me know. I've made recordings that will help you tonight. 3. Things you worry about rarely happen. Things that come out of the blue are the ones that knock you sideways (credit: Baz Lurhmann). Worrying will make you ill and unhappy. Get things out of your head, onto paper and make a plan. 4. Consistency is the secret to anything you want to achieve. As often as it takes, for as long as it takes. Tedious, but accurate. 5. Do not clean up after people who are big enough to clean up after themselves. No one likes the smell of burning martyr. Or other people's feet/armpits, for that matter. Even servants get paid and have rights/days off. 6. If what you want to achieve is on the other side of effort, run towards it. Don't be afraid of hard work, it builds character. 7. Get fun stuff in the calendar. You are not on planet just to grind and serve other people. You are allowed to have fun. It's vital to stay resilient. 8. Meditation works. Do it daily, no matter what kind. Let me know if you need help with that. 9. Unpopular opinion: You are supposed to feel anxious sometimes. Anxiety is what stops us from falling off cliffs. If it's severe and affecting your life, there's a lot you can do (shout if you need help with that). Certainly, get help if you need it. Knowing that you are meant to feel the full range of emotions and that almost everything passes can be reassuring. 10. People grow apart. It isn't a failure. It's just life. 11. Try to exit well. Always. Be mindful of how history will be written. Make sure you will be proud of your bit of the story. If in doubt - opt for the classy option. Polite silence can be a good approach to take - while others work out what really happened. 12. Talking behind someone's back makes you look like an idiot, not them. 13. Don't play games with someone's trust. Once it's broken, it's almost impossible to get it back. 14. You are supposed to collect friends as you go; some will drift out of your life, and that's how it should be. You are not destined to have only the same friends as when you were at Infant school. 15. You're allowed and supposed to make mistakes. That's how you get better. If you make no mistakes - you're not growing. 16. That thing you need to do - the one you're worried about. The appointment/trip/conversation/task? It is never as bad as the worry you have about it, and the worry lasts much longer. Engage kahunas, take a breath - and get it done. Part 2 coming shortly

The reason why you feel frustrated, negative and drained all the time, is because you haven't learned that outside circumstances and events are not the source of your true inner happiness - YOU ARE! Here are a few "happiness traps" that will never bring you long-lasting fulfillment and happiness in life (and these traps will actually hinder you and even STOP YOU from manifesting what you desire to have in your life): You let "money" be your guide for your emotions. When you are making money, you feel good, when you are losing money or not making "enough", you feel depressed and frustrated. Money DOES NOT equal Happiness. I have new clients that hire me that make boat loads of $ and they are still not happy. Hmmmm ... wonder why? or You tell yourself that your job situation and the way they treat you there has to change until you feel good. If only you got a new boss, if only you had more flexibility, if only your "superiors" would see your value ... blah, blah, blah ... or You are waiting for a significant other to enter your life and share your life with you - that's when you will be happy. NOT TRUE. or If you just lost some weight and improved how good you look on the outside ... that's when you will be happy (I am raising the BS meter on this one for sure)! When you do the inner work and realize that “happiness comes from within, despite your outside circumstances”, that is when you will truly improve how good you feel each and every day. So, when the sh&t hits the fan and something bad happens in your life or you are simply not getting what you desire to have in your life right now, you still can find the peace within and the belief that "you've got this" and "this too shall pass" when you have done the inner work and know that YOU are the source of your happiness - nothing else. Sure, it is normal to have an initial reaction of feeling sad, angry, upset, frustrated, irritated, when things are not what you want them to be. But those negative feelings are not permanent - they are just temporary. It’s ok to not feel ok, but when it is a constant “not feeling ok”, same pattern, same depressed feeling, that’s when our mind, body and soul is telling us we need to make a change in the way we think and feel and do it with consistent exercises, with a commitment to our overall mental health and wellbeing. Are you willing to make this commitment to yourself and permanently change how good you feel on a daily basis?  DM me if this is you and let's book a call! #HappinessCoach #HappinessisAnInsideJob #MindBodyCoaching #MindsetMatters #InnerWork #PersonalGrowth #PersonalDevelopment

#newdaynewchapter Happiness is totally the result of your thoughts and state of mind. Any external event needs to be processed by your mind and your thoughts about the event will cause feelings, either positive or negative. If you think about the positives you will be happy. If you focus on the negative you won’t. That’s not to say you won’t ever be sad about bad things happening, but that you need to know, and think about what happened before you can have a feeling and a certain state of mind about it. I’m sure you understand that when it comes to you, only you have control of what you feel. Each day will bring a new challenge. When you learn to capitalize and not cringe at what comes your way. We’re surrounded by externals that will complicate your existence Try to make the most of what comes to you, whether it’s a new person or a new opportunity. All those will and can make life a little harder, but they don’t have to ruin your day. They can very well enhance things and make them better. What goes on in your mind is up to you to master. You really have control and no one else. Have a little fun. That’s also up to you and can put a smile on your face, which I’m sure is nice to see. External influences and factors also creates thoughts. Our happiness or sorrow pain or pleasure is always based on the thoughts we have or create. External factors are like a praise that comes your way. It is good to receive praise but not to be disappointed when it doesn't come. So there is no dependency on an external factor. The happiness that come from external influence or factors are not lasting. The happiness you experience from within the self by just being happy and content with yourself is more lasting as it doesn't depend on an external factor. This is your true nature. I’d say the extent of happiness as a result of our inner thoughts and state of mind, is boundless and infinite, because our creative ability to turn any seemingly terrible situation into an opportunity to become a better, stronger, and wiser person, is also infinite. Given all the stories I’ve heard about people overcoming the worst adversities I could imagine (like extreme poverty, abuse of all kinds, rejection etc.), along with my own adversity such as my dad’s cancer, my mom’s depressions, and me never having excelled in anything, I strongly believe that our creative ability to become better, and therefore happier, is boundless. And that we can therefore always become happy from the inside, no matter what adversity we face, as long as we don’t give up and keep doing our best to become a little better with each time, and get closer to victory over ourselves. Cheers!

I turned 43 not too long ago. It has been an amazing journey so far that has been blessed with highs and lows across the board. Reflecting with a few thoughts I wanted to share: Happiness is about perspective. The glass has 50% of its total volume in liquid - you choose to see it as half empty or full. We do this with everyone/everything everyday. Choose to be positive or negative, it is on you. Time is an illusion. Make the most of now, what’s done is done - leave it behind you. What's ahead is uncertain - plan but limit length and expectations. Right now be where you have to be and do what you must but focus your energy on today. The present really is a gift. Say no. Everything you say yes to requires you say no to something else. Far too often we find ourselves sacrificing our precious time and limited energy on endeavours and people we really don't care about. Owning your happiness and maximizing your time means being a little selfish and saying no to others in order to say yes to ourselves. Health is wealth. Getting healthy took time, effort, sacrifice and discipline. Beyond feeling great, living a richer life and creating great habits - getting healthy has helped change my general perspective, has driven me to be much more organized and purposeful and has allowed me to be a better leader/worker/husband/father/friend. The level up has been astounding, I cannot imagine ever going back. Moderate alcohol. For many this isn’t a problem (or they have not come to the conclusion yet that it is), for me it was and will continue to be. I admit it, I have used alcohol to mask over fear/pain/nervousness/boredom for much of my life. Drinking has provided so many great times, while also being heavily involved in every regrettable mistake I have made. It is incredibly important to find balance in all we do - drinking included. Find true friends. I have been so incredibly fortunate in my life to have found and kept a small but spectacular group of friends. These are the kinds of friends that you can be completely open and honest with. Ones who know your fears, secrets and desires. The kind that hold you accountable when your are wrong, support you when your weak and celebrate the hell out of wins with you. Life without these people would be a pale shadow. Resilience defines us. You will rise, you will fall. What goes up must come down. Being resilient in the face of failure, adversity, changing fortunes etc is fundamental in not just surviving but thriving. I have learned 10x more in hard times than I ever have in good times, it sucked without a doubt but those leanrings have propelled me in every aspect of my life. Kindness is "your killer app". Being kind isn't just the right thing to do or right way to be, it is the motion that near, mid and long term pays the greatest benefit. Kindness as a default brightens your day and the days of all those around you. Smile more, care more, worry less. Simple equation.